Happy Monday, Geekly Gang! Kyra Kyle here with another addition to our Autism Representation series. As you may already know, I was diagnosed later in life with AuDHD–that’s autism shaken up with ADHD. The focus of today’s autism representation is the dramedy (more emphasis on the drama than the comedy), Everything’s Gonna Be Okay. Per usual, it’ll be difficult to cover this show without spoilers, so consider yourself warned of spoilers. Each one of the shows and films we cover in this series presents different issues in terms of covering autism representation. I’ll do my best with Everything’s Gonna Be Okay.
(Note: I’m also going to include more citations and supporting documentation going forward.)
We’ll begin with an overview of Everything’s Gonna Be Okay’s cast, and then go into detail with each of the show’s major neurodivergent characters. Buckle up for some authentic autistic representation.

Hiring Autistic Actors
We’re off to a fantastic start with Everything’s Gonna Be Okay. Many–if not most–of the people who portray a neurodivergent character in this series are neurodivergent actors. Simply put, a neurodivergent actor can pull from life experience to better portray a character who is neurodivergent. I’m not saying a neurotypical (someone who isn’t neurodivergent) actor can’t portray a neurodivergent character, but when you hire a neurotypical actor to portray a neurodivergent character, you’re more likely to end up with something like Sia’s Music. Yikes!
Josh Thomas/Nicholas Moss, Kayla Cromer/Matilda Moss, Lillian Carrier/Drea, and Carsen Warner/Jeremy are all neurodivergent actors playing the role of someone who is neurodivergent. This lends them authenticity in their portrayals. And I love to see it. Hollywood often takes the easy route and hires neurotypical actors to “play autistic.” That’s demeaning, especially when we can see in a show like Everything’s Gonna Be Okay that autistic actors are up to the task of portraying autistic characters. Autistic actors need to work, too.

It helps that the show creator, Josh Thomas, is a fellow AuDHDer. Samesies! Thomas made it a point to hire autistic actors, and Everything’s Gonna Be Okay is the better for it.

Josh Thomas as Nicholas Moss
Nicholas Moss’s storyline may be the only real spoiler I’ll share in this post, but sharing this spoiler shouldn’t ruin the experience of Everything’s Gonna Be Okay. At the beginning of this series, Nicholas was diagnosed with ADHD. By the end of the series, Nicholas discovers he, like his half-sister Matilda (who we’ll discuss later), is also autistic. This character journey mirrors actor/show creator Josh Thomas’s real-life journey. Thomas was diagnosed with ADHD at age 28, but found out he had autism later in life. Thomas shared this in an Instagram post.
But we see hints of Nicholas’s autism as early as Everything’s Gonna Be Okay’s opening moments. Literally, the opening seconds of the first episode. Nicholas spills his guts to his date, Alex. When we later learn that Nicholas has ADHD, this moment makes sense, but what’s subtle is Nicholas doesn’t do a good job of reading Alex’s social cues. We catch a glimpse of the two’s conversation in medias res (in the middle), but Alex suggests that he wanted to contribute to the topic, but Nicholas didn’t give him an opening. Nicholas was too busy info-dumping.

While I typically don’t care for info-dumping in stories, it works in Everything’s Gonna Be Okay’s first episode because it shows us who Nicholas is, warts and all. Medical News Today lists many of the traits Nicholas exhibits as signs of autism in adults. Despite being Australian, Nicholas doesn’t have a typical Australian accent. This is another subtle sign of autism in adults. I grew up in the Deep South and have little to no accent.
Nicholas also displays a special interest: bugs. Sure, he’s a would-be entomologist. Nicholas hasn’t finished a degree because he struggles in a school setting. While Nicholas never outright says why he never finished a degree, there are huge hints that he may struggle with executive dysfunction (this is a condition that can affect people with ADHD, ASD, and AuDHD).
(In short, executive dysfunction is a difficulty with accessing executive functions like organization, planning ahead, and self-monitoring.)

Even though Nicholas hasn’t yet completed a degree, he has an aptitude for bugs. Heck, most people would think he had an advanced degree. Nicholas’s special interest in insects features in Everything’s Gonna Be Okay’s marketing (the above image is from a Season One promotional image) and in each episode title. Every episode is named after a specific insect that may or may not be included in that episode. These are subtle nods to Nicholas’s autism.
Nicholas doesn’t learn he has autism until after he discovers autism is hereditary (his sister Matilda has it, so he may have it, too) and another character prompts him to get tested. At first, a positive test result doesn’t convince Nicholas. Matilda is less than thrilled. That’s another great moment (or reminder) in Everything’s Gonna Be Okay, but one that must wait until we get to Matilda’s segment. While we don’t know everything about Josh Thomas’s life experience (how could we?), it’s clear Thomas pulls a lot from his personal experience with his portrayal of Nicholas Moss. And based on interviews and his work on this show, Josh Thomas is a strong neurodivergent advocate.

Quick Rainbow Break
Before we move on to Matilda Moss, I needed to take a moment to commend Everything’s Gonna Be Okay’s LGBT representation. We get a variety of LGBT representation that it almost reads like the entire LGBT alphabet. Everything’s Gonna Be Okay shows us there are many iterations of how people express their sexuality. I will say there is a lack of trans representation. So close. If Everything’s Gonna Be Okay included a trans character, we would’ve broken down its trans representation as well. Despite that, Everything’s Gonna Be Okay showcases numerous colors of the rainbow.

Kayla Cromer as Matilda Moss
Kayla Cromer is another AuDHD actor. She shared her diagnosis during a Variety article. Since Cromer was out publicly as autistic (Thomas revealed his diagnosis after Everything’s Gonna Be Okay began airing), Cromer is the first known actor on the autism spectrum to play an autistic main character in a television series. Congratulations to Kayla Cromer. It does concern me that it took until 2020 for an autistic actor to portray an autistic main character in a television series. As we’ve seen in this short series, there have been numerous autistic and autistic-coded characters in Hollywood history. 2020 is a long time to wait.
Matilda exhibits more overtly autistic characteristics. According to the same Medical News Today article, Matilda displays different symptoms from her half-brother Nicholas. She has little inflection in her voice to the point where she explains her joke about vaccinations during her father’s eulogy. I chuckled because Matilda reminded me of an Elcor from Mass Effect in that moment. I’ve felt like I’ve had to do the same thing at times. She has difficulty reading emotions or others’ intentions. When Matilda announces her crush on Luke, her sister Genevieve claims everyone’s “in love” with Luke, she’s even in love with Luke. Matilda doesn’t grasp her sister’s hyperbole. She insists she won’t pursue a relationship with Luke if that would drive a wedge between them. These are over-the-top scenes, but they’re endearing.

Matilda also happens to be a gifted classical composer. She’s so talented that Juilliard accepts her. While I believe the autistic savant trope is overdone, I appreciate Matilda’s struggles with navigating New York City’s subways. The beginning of Everything’s Gonna Be Okay’s second season has the family in NYC, helping Matilda settle into a routine (a must for Matilda). Matilda knows which trains she needs to take and in which order to go from her would-be New York apartment to Juilliard, but she experiences sensory overload while on the subway. I love how Everything’s Gonna Be Okay narrows in on the stressors that make navigating the subway impossible for Matilda. This isn’t a generic autistic person. These are sensory inputs (sounds, touch, and the like) that uniquely trigger Matilda. No two autistic people are the same. They can have different triggers.

And I love how Everything’s Gonna Be Okay allows Matilda to express her sexuality. She isn’t an autistic angel. She’s an autistic woman. She’s the one who initiates a sexual encounter with Zane at a party, and when everyone around her (even her half-brother Nicholas and her younger sister Genevieve) baby her, Matilda lets them know she was a willing sexual partner. That’ll bring us to Matilda’s autistic, asexual wife, Drea, but she’ll be the subject of our next large segment.
Before we get to Drea, we need to discuss Matilda’s reaction to finding out Nicholas also has autism. She doesn’t take the news well. Matilda even accuses Nicholas of stealing her identity as an autistic person. She makes mention how she and Nicholas act nothing alike, so he can’t possibly be autistic.

Unfortunately, this sentiment has legs in the autistic community. Many people subscribe to the idea of “You’re autism doesn’t match my (or my child’s or my nephew twice removed’s) autism, so you can’t possibly be autistic.” I’m glad Everything’s Gonna Be Okay included it.
In the DSM-5, PDD-NOS (pervasive developmental disorder not otherwise specified) and Asperger’s Syndrome were folded into Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) (here’s a Child’s Mind Institute article explaining why this was done). In short, PDD-NOS and Asperger’s were diagnosed on socio-economic lines. When you hear someone like Elon Musk claim he has Asperger’s (instead of Autism), he’s saying he has money. We know, Elon. We know you have all the world’s money. You don’t need to remind us.

One distinction may be needed with ASD: level of need. Many autistic people have low to medium needs, which means we can function in the world with limited to moderate accommodations. And as an aside, accommodations–and Autistic people like Matilda affording themselves those accommodations–is something else Everything’s Gonna Be Okay does well. Matilda will put on her headphones if the noise gets to be too much. Drea, whom we will get to, has an emotional support dog. But there are members of the autistic community who require more help. This level of autism needs intensive, ongoing support and is sometimes referred to as Profound Autism.
(Here’s a link to Child Mind’s article on the three levels of Autism.)

According to a CDC report (that an Autism Science Foundation article cites), there is a reported 26.7% of people with ASD who also have Profound Autism. This is a significant percentage of people who have ASD. But just because someone has lower needs or can “mask” (a person with ASD pretending they’re neurotypical; here’s the National Autistic Society’s definition), doesn’t negate their ASD diagnosis. Heck, self-diagnosis shouldn’t be as looked down on as it tends to be. It costs a lot to get an official diagnosis. I have insurance, and it still costs a lot. Getting back to Everything’s Gonna Be Okay, Matilda has her moment of doubt with Nicholas’s diagnosis and eventually accepts the news. And it’s great to see that, too.

Lillian Carrier as Drea
Lillian Carrier is yet another autistic actor portraying an autistic character. (Carrier shares her story with Rival in this interview.) Drea is another diverse depiction of autism in Everything’s Gonna Be Okay. This show does a fantastic job of showing several autistic symptoms and things that can trigger an autistic person. Typically, Drea wears layers with one layer pressed tight against her. She does this because she’s hyposensitive, specifically with touch, which means she has decreased sensitivity to sensory input.
(Autism Help does a great job of breaking down the difference between hyper and hypo sensitivity.)
While we see a great example of Matilda being triggered by auditory hypersensitivity on the subway (she retreats from loud, repetitive noises), Drea repeatedly exhibits touch hyposensitivity. She seeks out tight hugs. That first layer of clothing needs to cling to her tightly, so she knows it’s there, and it soothes her. Her service dog will lie on her chest to calm her. At times, Matilda will offer to do the same. Drea is a phenomenal example of how an autistic person can advocate for themselves. She knows what she wants, even when her parents think they know better, and she asks for what she wants and needs.

Quick Shout Out to Maria Bamford
Mental health advocate Maria Bamford portrays Drea’s mother, and that makes sense. Bamford has tackled issues of depression and anxiety for years. She’s a powerful ally.

Closing Thoughts
Everything’s Gonna Be Okay won’t be for everyone, and that may be the point. It puts autism representation to the forefront. Everything’s Gonna Be Okay shows how autistic people can advocate for themselves, and how just because you have a diagnosis, you are capable. By the show’s end, Matilda and Drea marry and move out. With the accommodations–many of them simple–they can thrive on their own.
Even though we leave Everything’s Gonna Be Okay with Nicholas just finding out he’s autistic, too, I’m certain he’ll find what works for him. He’s on the road to accepting all parts of himself. Getting an autism diagnosis later in life can shake your sense of self. Most likely, this means you became adept at masking.
I found that I felt like I regressed when I unmasked. It was scary. If you read that definition of masking I shared earlier in this post, you’ll find that masking is often done unconsciously. My spouse didn’t see my funky walk (pacing and odd body movements) until after two or three years. I hid it for that long. Everything’s Gonna Be Okay does just what the title says. You can be you, without masking, and everything is gonna be okay.
If you have another television or film you’d like us to cover in this series, let us know. Thank you for reading, and wherever you are, I hope you’re having a great day.




















































































